Have you ever worried about lost opportunities? Are you someone who wished your life had taken a different turn? Did you ever feel that you missed taking some important decision in life? You are not the only one. The important question is whether you can do anything about such thoughts. It is not possible to go back in time and turn the clock. That is not how life operates.
Then what is the point in obsessive rumination? You will end up repeating the same patterns you
have performed on earlier occasions.
Has anyone ever stopped someone who really wanted to do something in life? The answer is ‘no’
irrespective of what you have been thinking. People have achieved what they have against all odds. They did that by focusing on what they were set to achieve and not on the odds. Those who see more of the odds are reluctant people. It is a state of mind which is a mixture of fear and loss. You are afraid of losing anything for your gain. It closes down your mind from seeing the light. As a result, the life you wanted escaped you.
What you are today is not exactly according to your choice. You have made compromises and adjustments to fit in many people in your life. You were a good child. Then why are you unhappy
today? It is all in the past. But you have decided to live your today in its shadow. Your state of mind today is of anger and guilt. You are angry that fitting in robbed you of your dreams. You were afraid of losing something then, but today you feel guilt for not losing those then. What kind of a tomorrow is waiting for you?
Reconcile today with your life. Do not resign, but reconcile. It does not mean going back to a
longing or a fantasy or a dream or a passion you had in the past, and struggle today to prove something to yourself. Pay attention to today. You still have passions, fantasies, dreams and desires that are in your present. This time, do not be reluctant. Do what it takes to be the author of your life. Nobody else is going to do it for you.
Everyone has their own lives to live. Enjoy together the spaces where your lives overlap. The rest of it is your own space to enjoy.
Swastham Shantam Sampurnam