“I don’t feel good”, “My mood is always down”, “I am not sure what to do”, “I am confused”, etc. are often statements we here around us. Where do they come from? They come from a place of a disturbance where peace was not known for a long period of time.
What is your common response to such expressions? “It’s okay; everything is going to be alright.” Your effort is to give hope, but what good is hope where there is no peace. It is like giving a blanket to someone knee-deep in flood to keep them warm. The disturbance has to be addressed at the earliest. If it is left unaddressed the moody experiences are going to be a regular occurrence and the intervals begin to reduce until the person goes into unpredictable behavioural patterns.
People in the family, as well as friend circles, have to be more understanding to the person. However, understanding from others alone is not enough. The person too has to make all efforts to come out of such a state. Occasionally mumbling about how you feel won’t do any good in the long term.
There is no logic in delaying when you know that you have to work on yourself. It is not different from waiting until you finish the tea to give CPR to someone who cannot breathe. Such instances have to be treated as those of critical importance. Nobody should use such words only to gain sympathy or attention. It will ruin whatever you have too in the long run. The big question is whether the person who is suffering having the right frame of mind to make the right efforts. Is everything they do or say coming from a conscious decision? One’s family has a great role to play here in identifying the problems their children go through and offering the appropriate help, both personal as well as professional when they show difficult behaviours.
Do not ignore everything as tantrums. It will help the individual to rise through challenges and enjoy a life of fulness.
Swastham Shantam Sampurnam