Keep ‘you’ out of the conversation.
“I think so” Are you someone who add this disclaimer to your answers? Have you ever given a thought to why it slips into your conversations? Do you look back to see whether the usage was unconscious or conscious? If you are a frequent user of “I think so”, stop it right away, as the usage reeks mediocrity.
Human beings talk on many levels. Certain conversations are limited to the emotional level. Certain other conversations are intellectual in nature. Some conversations have to cater to both emotions as well as intelligence. In conversations of emotional nature, you are expected to listen to the other. Intellectual conversations require you to state facts. When emotions and intelligence are at play in a conversation, one has to be a fine listener and a contributor of originality with innovation.
Language and communication are not free from the evolutionary trait of attracting attention to oneself. Therefore whoever talks unconsciously blocks out the thoughts of others. Since it is an unconscious act, you are not aware of its existence in your psyche. Its unconscious effect is that you want to impose your opinions upon others. This is why you often cannot have a peaceful or meaningful conversation outside the enforced structures of compliance. As a result, neither emotional needs nor rational needs are met. The best outcomes will be mediocre at their best.
Awareness of unconscious traits in your mind can make you go a long way in regulating them to bring newness in every word and action of yours. This is the sign of a person with self-esteem. A person with self-esteem does not need to beg for attention, consciously or unconsciously. Such an individual elevates the people they are engaged with. Ingenuity will prevail and exhaustion will be shown the door.
Swastham Shantam Sampurnam